Gosh. I hope your marriages and partnerships haven't been falling apart without the splendid advice from Blanche Ebbutt's Don'ts For Husbands and Don'ts for Wives! I haven't posted this wonderful advice from 1913 for a couple of weeks. Let the counselling session begin...
Don'ts for Husbands
II. Personal Relations - Part 1
Don't keep up the "poor little woman" pose too long. A woman may like to be a plaything for a little while, but the novelty soon wears off. (Exactly Blanche. Look at poor old Holly Madison. She didn't want to be Hef's plaything forever. That's why she, like, left him. It had absolutely nothing to do with the fact that he's an aging playboy. Really, it didn't. - JA)
Don't condescend; you are not the only person in the house with brains. (Yes, Hubby. I could SO take you in a game of...um...Snakes & Ladders. Ahem. - JA)
Don't be surprised, or annoyed, or disappointed, to find, after treating your wife for years as a feather-brain, that you have made her one, and that she fails to rise to the occasion when you need her help. (Also, don't be surprised, or annoyed, or disappointed, to find, after not buying your wife the Pandora bracelet she really wants, she just goes out and buys it herself. - JA)
Don't keep her in cotton-wool. She isn't wax - she's a woman. (And Hubby, before you make the comment that I look like dripping wax...think again. - JA)
Don'ts for Wives
I. Personalities - Part 6
Don't tell all your women friends of your husband's faults, but - (Huh? Oh, I think Blanche wants us to go to the next one... - JA)
Don't din his perfections into the ears of every woman you meet. Be satisfied to enjoy them. (What if I were to say he was perfect at being annoying at times? - JA)
Don't interpret too literally the 'obey' of the Marriage Service. Your husband has no right to control your individuality. (In fact, don't interpret it at all. Just a) don't use it; or b) ignore it! - JA)
Don't be discontented and think your husband not 'manly' because he happens to be short and thin, and not very strong. Manliness is not a purely physical quality. (That's right. And just because my husband shaves his legs sometimes (for his "cycling") doesn't mean he's not manly. Oh, no siree. - JA)
Once again, words of wisdom from Blanche. Really, how much better can it get?
Until next time...
For previous Don'ts from 1913, click on the links below: