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Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Bloggers Without Makeup

Sometimes, I just can't ignore a post when it's staring me right in the face. And this is one of those posts.

A few weeks ago, I was ironing (sorry...didn't mean to shock you like that. Occasionally, it happens) and anyway, I was watching an episode of Desperate Housewives (Season 5 on DVD). In the particular episode I was watching that day, Gabby's daughter was sent home from school because she had put on make up. Gabby was upset. "Why did you do that to yourself?" she asked. It was then she discovered her daughter had a copy of a magazine on which Gabby had graced the cover during her modelling days. It was then that it dawned on Gabby that her daughter was trying to look like her. 

Anyway, Carlos (Gabby's husband for the non-Desperate Housewives devotees) then has an idea to show his daughter that looks aren't that important. He suggests that Gabby attend an award ceremony without her make up. As you can imagine, this did not go down well with Gabby at all, and even though she complies and attends the evening - barefaced - when, ah, faced with being photographed for a newspaper on the night, she can't help but wrestle some poor woman in the ladies for her make up so she can look "half decent" for the shot. Of course, her daughter is present and is subsequently upset that Gabby hasn't followed through with her promise, and Gabby, in turn, feels guilty that she couldn't stick with the no-makeup plan. Obviously, she was too concerned about what people would think. 

Phew. Hope you got all that.

In any case, it's a no brainer that glamorous magazine covers can attract young girls, and young girls can feel that if they don't look as gorgeous as some model who has just had her hair and make up professionally done, and placed in front of some exotic background location, then they're obviously quite inferior by comparison. We know that it is not so, but an impressionable young girl is...well impressionable by nature, isn't she? 

And then, I was reading this post of Thea's over at Do I Really Wanna Blog? about seeing bloggers' photos on their blogs and Twitter, and getting an impression based on those photos. Thea also talked about what an impression some may have of her based on her pics, and this struck a cord with me. I realised that many of us feel insecure about showing our true selves. I admit it...when I post a pic of myself, I choose one with a good angle. I make sure I have a bit of lippy on. Some face powder, mascara. Flattering lighting. I might even switch it to black and white. I've retouched shiny spots on my face (true)!

Currently, I have a fairly glam shot of myself on my Twitter account. The same shot is also used on Aussie Mummy Bloggers and a few other of my accounts. It was taken at a friend's 40th birthday party, and to be honest, I'm not sure if my friend photo-shopped it, because normally, you're bound to see a few more wrinkles around my eyes, as well as a little puffiness, than you do in that shot. Let's just say, it's safe to say I do not look like that picture often.

Why did I choose it? Why not a picture cropped from a cuddle with one of my kids or Hubby at the beach? Or why not some other pic from my iPhoto collection? 

Well, because I want people to like the look of me. I want to present well. That's the easiest answer...but the deeper question that stems for that, is why do I feel the need to do this?

I'm always telling my boys to be themselves. "Be yourself," I say with conviction. "If people don't like you for who you are, that's their problem." And, "Don't worry about what people think. Who cares? Be your own man, and people will love you for it." I repeat these mantras over and over to my sons...even more than the one I constantly use when disciplining them: "Treat others how you want to be treated yourself." (And that's really saying something.)

So, am I setting an example for my boys? Am I "being myself" when I'm blogging and tweeting? I think I am when I write, but when I put up my pics, I fear that I am not. Not that I think that's all bad. We all want to "look nice", and there's nothing wrong with glamming it up on occasion. I mean, I'd rather look at celebs in all their garb then not. Doesn't mean I think they look less beautiful without the makeup - just that it's appealing and a bit of fun for viewing. 

But should I be SO concerned about trying to look good?

After Thea's post, I also noticed this post from The Real Sydney over at Get Real, in which she applauded Kate Walsh (Grey's Anatomy, Private Practice) for turning up with no make up to an official event. Once again, I got to thinking about the makeup thing. How often do I go out without it? Hardly ever, if the truth be told. Usually I wear just a little face powder and mascara - often, some lipstick. Why don't I just go out without it? What am I so worried about?

And then the final hammer down on my little head...this week's WHO Magazine - Stars Without Makeup. Ok, so celebrities are celebrities, and bloggers are bloggers (who are, sometimes, also celebrities - but you know what I mean)...but in any case, that was it. I knew what had to be done.

So, for better or worse, here's how I really look. This shot was taken on Mother's Day. I have not long got out of bed. I've yet to wash my face, brush my teeth, or get out of my pjs. I haven't even brushed my hair. This, dear readers, is the "real me":

I got to thinking about the person I'm portraying out there in Blogland and Twitterland, and thought that perhaps it was time you saw...me. 

And now, I wonder...does anyone else out there dare to bare? 

Here's what I propose. This Friday 14 May, I am going to proclaim it "Bloggers Without Makeup Day", but open to bloggers and tweeps. I'm going to use the above photo on my Twitter account ALL DAY on Friday. I'm going to put a trending topic attached to it, #BloggersWithoutMakeup, and I'm going to show all of you the real me and, in turn, perhaps practice a bit of what I preach. If you have a blog, you could also post a pic like mine on your blog (if you dare) and tweet it on Friday. 

I'm not going to quit the more glam shots all together. I just figured, why should we be afraid to show our true selves? 

Anyway, even if you don't want to join me - that's ok. I'm doing this for me, and for my kids. Of course, the impact may have been greater if I'd had a girl. My boys will probably look at it someday and say, "Whatever," but it's the thought that counts. ;)

Anyone wanna put the flattering black & white shots behind, replace the wedding photos and the pics taken with your hair freshly coiffed, and join me?



Nomie said...

Now that is a fantastic idea! I'm in. Well done Jodie. I spent most of yesterday looking for a 'decent' photo of me, it seems most of the ones I have are from events where I am all glammed up... and I kept thinking, but this only part of me... not all of me.
I also have a half done post called The real me - so I'll finish it and post it Friday.
You're a champion for being brave enough to go first, and by the way, you look beautiful, PJ's and all. xxx

Jane said...

I love love love LOVE this idea. Total respect to you for posting about this. It's something I've been thinking about lately, especially with all these celebrities posing make-up free in magazines.

In Twitter-land, like you (and everyone else, I'm sure), I try to make sure my little photo is a semi-decent one. After all, it's all everybody gets to see of me, so I want to make sure I look nice!

In real life, I wear make up whenever I leave the house, but I don't pack it on. It's only ever a bit of foundation, a bit of mascara and a bit of bronzer. Easy peasy. Less is more.

I'm definitely keen to participate this Friday. I can't wait to see what everybody else looks like in "real" life! xx

Thea said...

GREAT idea!!!!
I'm in!
I'm with you...glam shots are good too, but showing the real you is important.

And btw...you look just as gorgeous with or without makeup! xx

MegsyJ said...

I LOVE this idea. I'm in.

This photo here with my comment? Taken at a friend's wedding - more than 5 years ago - and I retouched the shiny bits. My blog and Twitter pics? A professional shot with hair done and makeup on.

You're so right - we go on about other people needing to show themselves without makeup, yet here we are...

PS - Jodie, you are gorgeous, with or without makeup xx

Kristin said...

Jodie, I think this is a great idea. Would you consider doing a post on Friday with a McLinky so other bloggers could link their posts if they are putting up similar pics? That might be another way to connect them all together. I'll join!

BTW, think you look beautiful in your natural pic.

Jodie at Mummy Mayhem said...

That sounds a good idea. I'll have to look in to that! Thanks! x

Cate Bolt said...

I just want to put a big fat smile here. When I recently shaved my head for the World's Greatest Shave, it was possibly one of the most liberating things I've ever done. My hair, which was very long and lovely identified me for a long time. Since shaving my head I feel more ME than I have ever felt in my life. I've never been one for makeup and dress-ups but, like everyone, I've been inclined to only use my best photos. Image is still important to me, but I'm moving on to wanting my image to be of someone who is "REAL".
My twitter photo is of me without make up, with what little hair I have un-dyed and grey, but it is still a flattering photo.
I won't be around on the 14th, we will be in Sydney filming for Planet You, but as my contribution I'd like to show you my mother's day blog post http://catherinebolt.com - I have put up a series of un-pretty, un-made up, un-flattering photos. Each is of me with my children, all taken by my children. While they may not be "pretty" - to me they are the most beautiful photos I own.
Good for you. I love this idea.

Jodie at Mummy Mayhem said...

Thank you so much Cate! I'm sure everyone will be checking out your contribution. xxx

Jodie at Mummy Mayhem said...

Ok all. I think I've managed to set up a McLinky for Friday. I'll post a reminder on Friday morning, 8am Australian EST, and you can link to your own posts here if you like!

Woo hoo! Look forward to seeing everyone's pics on Friday. xx

SeraphimSP said...

I am in for this for sure. Is it wrong that I am wondering if I could have a black and white photo??? You know, so I don't upset you!

Brenda said...

You are beautiful inside out, Jodie. So there. And yes, I am in!!

tiff said...

I'm in!
Brilliant idea.

fat mum slim said...

Fab idea. I'm in. Please tweet a reminder so that I don't forget! x

Jessica said...

first of all, and I swear to you, SWEAR to you, I think you are very pretty without it. SWEAR!

Second, I've already done my fair share of "jessica sans make up" on some of my Vlogs b/c it was late at night and I was just that lazy.

Henrietta Pretty said...

A really great post. very inspiring and thought provoking. I 100% agree with you. Hey, i'm one of those anonymous bloggers without a single photo on my site. Is that the extreme form of identity management? it certainly gets me out of posting a make up free photo on my page on friday.
btw you look beautiful in yur picture. It's probably only you, so used to yourself in make up, that thinks otherwise.

emlykd said...

SHIT, Jodie!!!! You are GORGEOUS!! *Now* I DEFINITELY can't do this!!! Besides, I'm still a single girl!!! I gotta put my best foot forward!!!!

Jodie at Mummy Mayhem said...

Well, Jessica...first of all, thank you for the lovely comment *blushes*

Secondly, YES - I've seen your make up free stuff...and as you know, I think it ALL fabulous.

To visit Jessica's blog (I promise - absolutely worth it) go to http://bernthis.com/wordpress/

Jodie at Mummy Mayhem said...

But you're a single, beautiful, young (read 'wrinkle-free') girl. Nothing to worry about. Promise!!! xxx

Annieb25 said...

Awesome post Jodie! I totally love the idea. Count me in. Do you want us to write a post on our blog and link to yours? Sorry new to this blogging thingy. By the way you look awesome in your photo so pretty. xx

miss carly said...

i rarely wear make up. today none. yesterday none. sunday. okay i had a base and mascara. lol. but we were heading to hunters hill and uh i didnt want to look out of place. if anything i should have worn some today as i was *ahem* working :) im in xx

NikkiP said...

I'm in ... great idea, Jodie ... but I'll have to do the makeup thing before my appointments!

TheRealSydney said...

I'm in !!! I'm terrified but I'm in !!! I regularly go without makeup in my day to day life - work, shopping, movies etc ... BUT capturing a photo and whacking it on my blog is scary ... eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeek!

Lori said...

So scary, but I love it. I'm in ;)

Tina said...

I'm in!!

SquiggleMum said...

I'm in. Took a pic last night!

Taryn said...

Your unmade up self looks pretty good to me Jodie! I never wear make up. Well. Only mascara. Can't be arsed. Just call me lazy so I will partake!!! xx

lisa heidke said...

Am happy to go commando on Friday but am not a regular blogger, so can't count myself as one of you! Will try (if I am savvy enough) to post a nude photo of myself.

kbxmas said...

Put up a post today urging people to participate. Hopefully you'll get more No. Amer. participants from it.

Jean Has Been Shopping said...

Fantastic idea!
You look lovely without make-up, toothpaste, and hairbrush.

Thais said...

oh..scary!! but think I am in too! ps: Jodie its not fair you look amazing without make up!!x

Susie said...

I think you look fresh faced and just LOVELY Jodie! Loved this post!

Marcella Corroeli (marcime) said...

Thanks for the challenge Jodie - Love the line: Why should we be afraid of our true selves? I will do it and challenge my bloggers to as well ! Why is it that I have so many blogger friends in Australia? I signed up here - glad to join in!

You login here did not accept my blogspot url. hmm.
here's my link : www.tinkerbellys.blogpsot.com

Jenn said...

Such a lovely post! It's not quite Friday yet here in Utah, USA (its currently Thursday afternoon) but I will take a picture tomorrow morning and post it for the world (er, well, my blog readers, tweeps and maybe if I'm brave enough, my Facebook friends!! yikes!).

Thank you for emitting (even while a world away) such inspiration and pride. It is definitely rubbing off. Thank you!!

Jenn in Utah
www.jenn-writes.blogspot.com (Private, but email me + I'll add you:)))

*rowe* said...

i came over from chantelles site and i love reading what you said! dont be affraid to share who you are because you are the same person with or without makeup!

easy for me to say... i probably only wear makeup once a month or maybe even less... i think wearing makeup is just habit, whatever your accustomed to feels normal. my mum never wears makeup and i think you put makeup on for a special occasion. my girlfriends who wear makeup everyday have mums who do the same. they just feel naked without it!

going to explore more of your site! rowe x

Kellie said...

Hi Jodie, I came across your site via Chantelle's Fat Mum Slim and have been inspired to post a photo of myself sans makeup on my blog this morning. You look lovely by the way!

Fiona Moore said...


Done! :)

Tamsyn said...

Gorgeous Jodie! This was a great idea, you've inspired me to put up a make-up free photo of myslef too!

Michelle said...

Congratulations Jodie - what a great iniciative!
You too look absolutely beautiful!!!

Ali said...


m.e (cathie) said...

well done!!
what a great idea, lovely to meet some new faces.

Claire (20somethingmum) said...

Hi! Have joi ned in, thought it was such a good idea! http://20somethingmum.blogspot.com/2010/05/great-blogger-no-make-up-challenge.html

Shelley said...

Here's mine: http://butwait.blogspot.com/2010/05/unvarnished.html

Thanks for the cool idea!

Cranky Sarah said...

I understand both sides of this issue, but I'm looking at it as a fun thing to do. There are too many serious issues in life!

Erica Diamond said...


Here's mine!!! No makeup baby! Wrinkles and smiles and all!!

Corrin said...

You look lovely.

Melaina25 said...

I took the plunge!

Jenny said...

I'm in!

Megs said...

Here's mine! Great idea Jodie!

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for this, Jodie. <3

My Baby Sweetness said...

You look GREAT both ways!

Holly {ArtistMotherTeacher} said...

A little late but it still counts, right? :)


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