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Friday, March 11, 2011

This Week I'm Grateful For...Teresa

Tomorrow is my friend, Teresa's, birthday.

I've known Teresa for 25 years now. We've had some great times together over the years, as well as the odd fall-out (which we've always been able to reconcile).

It was Teresa who didn't pressure me to choose between friends in high school when others were doing so. She just waited until I realised how true a friend she was.

It was Teresa who, at my surprise 18th birthday party, made sure the food went in to the oven, was heated and served to my guests, whilst I sang ABBA songs with our friends. 

It was Teresa who listened to me patiently when I complained constantly about my relationships, or lack thereof, in those years before I met my husband, and allowed me to cry on her shoulder numerous times.

It was Teresa who, at my 21st birthday party, made sure I ate something, by fetching me food, and insisting I sit down and eat it.

It was Teresa who flew to Sydney from our hometown of Perth with her husband, leaving her two small children in the care of others, so she could share my wedding day with me. She came to my apartment and helped me dress, joking with me to ease my nerves.

It was Teresa who, on any trip I've taken back to Perth over the years, would organise a lunch or bbq at her place so we could get together with girlfriends.

It was Teresa who, after moving with her family to Sydney for a short time, insisted I go to the first school function when my eldest son was in Kindy, so I could meet other parents. She looked after my kids - including the 4yr old, who was only a few months' old at the time.

Teresa and I don't see each other very often these days, nor do we email or call each other nearly enough (I'm better at emailing, she's better at calling), but she will always have a special place in my heart.

I am grateful for her friendship.

Happy Birthday, Teresa. Love and miss you. xxx

Thanks to Maxabella for hosting the weekly 'grateful' post.

Do you have a special friend you've known for a long time? What are you grateful for this week?

Image: We Heart It 


_vTg_ said...

It's interesting which friends stick. I think tolerance of each other's faults is a valuable long-term-friendship-promoting ability.
The person who was my best friend at school and I have grown apart because somehow we both expect the other to be better at communicating and we've lost the ease with which we communicate in all that guilt that we didn't email sooner. Of my school friends, the best friends are now the ones who forgive me for dropping in and out of their lives depending on how busy we both are, and with whom I can pick up the conversation left off a month ago.

Long live long-lived friendships!

Inner Pickle said...

That's such a beautiful post! I cherish long-standing friends too. You must be a good one.

mumsarcade said...

Is that you and your friend in the photograph. I so love that picture.
Your post is so moving and shows you reflected on your friendship a lot.
I hope you get to see each other more often in the future.
I would love you to link up to my Wonderful Women blog hop at http://gigglingatitall.blogspot.com so more people can read about Teresa
My gratefuls are over there too

BS said...

What a beautiful, sensitive article about a true friendship (who said you could not write). You are lucky to have Teresa in your life, but then she is lucky that you are grateful for what she has done - getting all mushy.

Like Mumsarcade, that picture is just perfect - is it you two?
Happy Birthday Teresa.

P.S. Do you both have Skype?

yaga said...

What a sweet thank you and birthday present for such a sweet friend! She very much deserves it, as it seems! ;o)

Naomi said...

I love the sweet memories you have shared. Love how she has served you and cared for you. what an awesome friend. N x

Madmother said...

What a lovely post!

Yes, I have many old and good friends in my life. And am hoping to meet some new ones today.

Miss Pink said...

Sometimes the best kinds of friends to have are the one's who understand that life gets busy without having much news and time can go by without speaking but you can pick up where you left off when you do have contact again.
Those kinds of friends? They're the best. There is no pressure to talk, or to do this or that, you can just be, silences are comfortable and you don't have to explain that you're tired or whatever else.

I do indeed have a friend like that. She was one of my very best friends in high school and amoungst the teen-drama-friend-wars she actually never sided with "the group" when they decided i was the outcast of the week, instead she just ignored it all like it wasn't happening. While we never had any classes together we spent almost every morning before school, after school and much of the weekends together. She left school after year 10 whereas i chose to stay on and we sorta stopped talking. Not in a nasty way, we just, stopped.
6 years later cue her pregnant with her first and us quite literally bumping into one another, we vowed to catch up, and a few weeks passed and she gave birth to her gorgeous daughter without having caught up, i invited myself around to her house when the baby was a couple of days old and made her sit while i did whatever she needed and fussed over the baby for her and we have been inseperatable since. She hasn't changed at all since school, and if we aren't together we are texting one another. There are no secrets between us, and it actually annoys Mr Black with how close we are.
Gotta love a good friend.

bigwords is... said...

So gorgeous. Long term friendships are amazing aren't they? I have a friend who I met when I was 5yo and despite a few fights we have been great friends. We don't see each a lot but when we do we completely at ease with each other. xx

melissa said...

I love those friendships that work. Neither resents the other if life gets busy and contact is infrequent. Some friendships are based on the tiny details of everyday life while some are all about the 'bigger picture'.

Lovely photo as well.

Michelle said...

Such a beautiful post!
Happy Birthday Teresa

Cate said...

just lovely - really true friends are worth their weight in gold aren't they!!
have a great weekend

Hannah McNulty and Baby Moo said...

This is such a gorgeous post and your friend is so lucky for having you in her life.

REAL friendship is sacred and I am so glad that you have it. X

Naomi said...

Beautiful post Jodie, and you know I have my Best Pam. We have been friends 30 years this year!
Like you and Teresa, we no longer live in the same state, but are always there for each other.
Happy birthday Teresa, and have a great weekend Jodie xxx

Jodie at Mummy Mayhem said...

Thank you for all your lovely comments!

I honestly think Teresa has been the better friend. She was always so thoughtful, and when I was younger (which is when the majority of our friendship took place), I could be rather selfish. Talking about my boy problems etc all the time! (But I'm not like that now - promise!)

mumsarcade & BS - nope, not us in the photo, but I chose this pic because Teresa has brown hair IRL, mine was blonder (back then), so it could be us! I love this pic too. Great website called We Heart It. Right down the bottom of my post is a link to it.

Miss Pink - I'm so glad you reconnected with your friend! I really do think you friends from school are the ones who know the *real* you. They've seen you grow and mature and I find it very simple and relaxing when I catch up with my old friends from my high school days!


Thea said...

How lovely!
And lucky Teresa, I say!! :)

AlyceB said...

Aw, I just took out my BFF for dinner last night for HER birthday! I've known her for almost 15 years now. We first met at church, and grew up there together, and then we went to college together. 2.5 yrs ago, she was one of my bridesmaids.

Jodie at Mummy Mayhem said...
Oh, yes DO IT!
I wish I had. I have girlfriends who did Pilates during their pregnancy and their tummy reduced much quicker than mine after the birth!
I had quite a wide separation of my abdominal muscles after my third son (6 finger widths - he was a big boy, and having carried two already....!), and it was pilates afterwards (a body ball class) that really helped to rectify that.

Ooh, ouch, 6 fingers!! Did you have to wear a belly band or anything?? How big was he? Jonathan was 10lb9 (4.8kg)... I'm hoping for a little bit smaller this time, lol. Thankfully the OB predicts 3.7kg!

Maxabella said...

You are blessed to have such a wonderful friendship that has stood the test of time and 21st birthday parties. x

Romina Garcia said...

That's beautiful. I too have a friend like Teresa. Perhaps I should go and give her a call.
Awesome blog. So glad I found you via AMB.
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Kim H said...

That's such a lovely thing to be grateful for. I know exactly how you feel. I have a couple of friends like that in my life and they are like a lifeline to me. Thanks so much for sharing that.

m.e (Cathie) said...

beautiful post Jodie, nothing beats a friendship that lasts teenage years, boyfriends, trends & just life.
happy weekend ♥

Chantelle {fat mum slim} said...

I have a handful of great friends that have been with me for the long haul. I love them to bits and pieces. xx